Judging Before Asking: What Is Your Story?

Dinker & Giggles is working on a new thought provoking series called ‘Judging Before Asking’. It’s meant to touch upon situations we all face in our daily lives. Times we tread on tippy-toes to not offend. However, it’s often the treading that offends. We’d love to hear your stories. The good, the bad, and the ugly.

It’s okay to admit if you thought negatively or perhaps didn’t know what to think at all

It’s YOUR story.

• Have you ever had a friend lose a child -perhaps even on the day he was to be born? What did you do? Did you ignore the situation assuming it would be too hard for her to talk about it? Did you go out of your way to avoid mentioning that child? Perhaps you asked her what she was feeling and if it was okay to mention him to honor his existence?
• Have you ever had a friend suddenly wheelchair bound? Did you become Ms. Mom and hoover and try to help in every imaginable situation? Perhaps it was too emotional and hard for you and going out of your way to always be ‘busy’ was easier? Or maybe you asked the hard questions and found out exactly what they needed?
• Have you ever wondered why your friend wears turtlenecks year around? It couldn’t be happening to them could it? Are they hiding bruises? Do you just ignore the turtleneck in 80 degree weather? Do you ask if something is wrong, do you offer a safe haven?
• Ever had a conversation with a deaf person before? Did you tell the interpreter ‘tell her’ ‘can you ask her’ instead of talking directly to her? Perhaps you weren’t sure who to hold eye contact with? Maybe you wanted to speak on their behalf when placing orders at restaurants? Maybe you asked them exactly what it’s like and what they find complicates things when working with hearing society?
• Do you have a child with a special need? When you got pregnant again how many said to your face ‘how could you’? How many times has your ‘normal’ looking child had an episode and strangers get angry for you being a bad mother and not controlling your child? Perhaps you’ve been that stranger looking in disappointment as a mother at the end of her strings tries to control her child? Have you ever thought of stopping and asking what it’s like? Is there something she wishes society would know when faced with a situation like hers?
• Maybe someone you know has cancer? Are you afraid to ask them if they are scared? Does it hurt? What is it like? Perhaps that someone is you – what would you want to tell your friends and family that you know they are wanting to know but don’t want to offend you?

We want to hear your thoughts. Have you ever been in these types of situations? Have you ever crossed the street to avoid walking past a homeless person? Have you wanted to ask the hard questions but too afraid of hurting someone’s feelings?

Ask us.

We’ll get the answers for you in our upcoming series. Don’t forget it’s OKAY to tell us that you where the one that avoided situations. If you want to be anonymous that’s okay too! Just let us know!

• Please send your story or questions along with your name and state/country. You can also attach a photo of yourself/family to be included. If you have a video you’d like for us to see please link us to it. Remember if you want to be anonymous please leave out the personal details and tell us you do not want your name mentioned.

Email – mystory@judgingbeforeasking.com

Where will you see this series?

More information about time and date will be posted on our Fan Page as well as here on our site. We will be having live interviews on Mingle Media TV as well! You can also follow on Twitter by watching: #askB4judge

Photo: (above right) – Dr. Jennifer Arnold of TLC’s ‘Little Couple’